This is my
personal herpes story. I will try to be consistent about coming back and
updating my story for you as things happen and life unfolds.
If you would like to have a little herpes biography page like
this one I would be happy to create one for you. All
you have to do is send me the information as you would like it to appear
and I will put your page together and connect it to Yoshi2me. Feel
free to share a picture if you want too! ;)
Age: I was 25 years old when I contracted herpes.
Marital Status: Happily married
with three girls.
Favorite Bible Verses:
My cup overflows (Ps. 23:5)
My Own Personal
By opening up to a
partner and talking about an STD diagnosis you are showing that you
respect and care about yourself as well as the other person.
Year Infected: 1995
Herpes Simplex Virus Type-2
Prodromes: Slight fever, tingling sensations, flu-like
Method of Control: Valtrex, I was on suppressive
therapy for 2 years
My Herpes Story:
In the summer of 1995 I woke up one day with what I thought was a bladder infection. I knew I needed to get in to see the doc. The doc put me on bladder infection meds. Three weeks went by and throughout the entire process the doctors kept
putting me on different types of medications specifically for bladder infections. At the end of three weeks I was miserable, couldnít walk, and the pain was beyond
attempting a description. I felt like I had the flu.
Finally, I insisted on a visual examination and to my disbelief was told that I had genital herpes. The results of a
herpes culture confirmed the diagnosis. I was immediately put on Zovirax. Later when I went in to see my family doctor he switched me to Famvir. To make a long story short my family doctor didnít have a whole lot of information about herpes. He basically handed me a box of tissue, told me my life would never be the same, and sent me on my way.
(Nice, huh?) The first year I was ashamed, got flare ups all the time, and didnít have anyone that I trusted to talk to about what was happening in my life. To make
matters worse I was angry that there were no
Groups where I lived.
My Herpes Outbreaks and Frequency:
Anyone that has experienced a flare up and knows what they feel like will tell you they are
no fun at all. Herpes outbreaks can be downright irritating and just another painful reminder of what we already know: HERPES. In the beginning I got outbreaks every two to three weeks. After tracking my flare-ups for one year I decided it was time to try suppression with Valtrex. Between Zovirax, Famvir and Valtrex I decided that Valtrex was
getting rid of the flare-ups much faster. Suppression worked so well that I stayed on it for two years taking only 500 mg daily. No more flare ups made me a very happy person. In May of 2001 I did not get any flare-ups as a result of stopping suppression. In fact, it was nine months before I experienced a tiny red inflammation that went away in just two days
taking Valtrex. They say that flare-ups decrease over time and in my situation this theory is definitely applicable. Everybody is different and herpes does not react the same way for all people. To date I no longer suffer from flare-ups and I am no longer on suppression. My advice to anybody that is newly diagnosed would be to educate yourself as much as possible and understand that what works for me might not work for you. Keep an open mind, have patience and stay away from ďmiracle curesĒ and ďsnake oil salesmen.Ē
to Your Partner about Herpes:
Telling a potential partner that you have herpes is not always
easy but I think we can agree itís the right thing to do. Some people like to tell from the beginning and others like to wait to really get to know the person. I donít believe there is a wrong way to go about telling just as long as you tell before sexual intimacy. I would like to say that my husband loves me for who I am and not what I have or donít have. Always expect the best in a relationship because you are worth it! Donít sell yourself short and try not to limit yourself to only dating people that have herpes. In the end you canít help loving who you love and adding restrictions and limitations only works to add to a stressful life. Having Herpes
or HPV is nothing to be ashamed of so hold your head up high
and be positive. If you donít already know this there are a lot of folks out there that have herpes and donít know that they have it because they donít ever get any signs or symptoms. Herpes tests are
not included in that routine STD testing process either.
Herpes and Pregnancy Update: In 2003 I found out I was pregnant! My husband and I are excited and can't wait to meet our
little girl. So far everything is going very well with mine and the
baby's health. I am not worried about passing herpes to my baby because
the chances of that happening are about one in several thousand. I am
planning on going back on suppression with Valtrex about 6 weeks before
my due date to prevent any flare up activity during labor and delivery.
If all goes well I hope to have a vaginal delivery. If you are pregnant with herpes please do not worry about passing this to your baby. Arm yourself with the facts and keep in constant communication
with your doctor to make sure the both of you are on the same page.
My Baby Update: My sweet baby girl was finally born! She weighed in at 7lbs
7oz and she was 20 inches long. There was absolutely no sign of flare ups
during labor and
being on suppression prior to giving birth was not a problem. The epidural was
AWESOME (I highly recommend them) and the anesthesiologist probably learned a
thing or two from me about herpes! What was funny is that he asked me if I was
taking any medications before he installed the epidural. I told him I was on
suppression with Valtrex. He said, "Oh is that for the ----" (he couldn't say
the word herpes) and he pointed to his mouth as if he were trying to indicate cold sores or a fever blister. I laughed and said, "No that would be for the genital herpes on me thank you." I scolded him a
little for not saying the
word herpes and then proceeded to laugh some more and informed him that the
baby would not be coming out of my mouth! We laughed hysterically when I
wasn't having a contraction.
For those folks that have been following my story with great interest I want
to tell you do not be discouraged. You can have a normal, healthy baby, and
with a vaginal delivery in spite of
Another Baby On-the-Way Update: Baby Girl #3 is due at the end of 2005. I will be starting
suppressive therapy again mid October and we shall see how things go! If
you are pregnant with herpes and need somebody to talk to please do not
hesitate to contact me.
Another Baby Update: As you can see
by the time you get to this paragraph, My sweetheart was born in November. She weighed in at (brace yourselves!)
10lbs 3oz!!! Today my sweetheart is three years old. I don't believe we are
going to have any more children. Not unless God has something else in
store for us. I think it would be cool to adopt children that don't have
a home OR family to go home to. We'll see what happens.