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When I joined early last week, I was at a real low point in this Herpes
thing. It really helped me to read what everyone else who has it is
thinking and feeling. I feel brighter and more cheerful than I have in
a long time. I don't feel alone with this anymore. I really just
wanted to thank everyone for directly and indirectly changing my point
of view and showing me that it's not the end of the world. Thank you
for showing me that I am lucky to still be with my husband (even though
I got it from him), for showing me that having Herpes doesn't define me,
and that I'm not wearing a huge red H on my clothes. I feel like I can
move forward a little more now. And a step in any direction is a step
away from where I was. All of you are appreciated! - Tam
I like this site every one seems so
positive. It really makes you feel good to find that other people
have similar problems, and have such a great attitude. - Vic
Joining this group has helped me - in
just a few days. I have had herpes for over 25 years and have not
heard how other people with it felt and how they dealt with it. I am
appreciating reading everyone's input. I actually put an ad in the
internet personals stating I had HSV2!!! How's that for disclosing
right up front. But didn't put anything else about myself, nothing,
no interests, nothing personal about myself except that, the one
"defining" thing - that should tell you how much impact this has
had, I've come to think of myself in terms of the main/only thing
about me is that I have herpes. In retrospect, after reading
everyone's posts, I see how weird I have let myself get. (I did get
3 responses) - L
Just goes to show you that you don't
have to let herpes be the definition of who you are. You are so much
more than the little virus that resides in your body. I think it
took a lot of guts for Lorna to put that she has herpes in her
online dating profile. Wouldn't it be nice if more people did that?
- Angela
I recently
left the group and am responding to the feedback questions on your
site. I left because I feel like I have closure with having
HSV2. I
have had HSV2 for 3 years, the man I slept with lied to me about
having an STD, and I was blessed with the souvenir. I am now 28
years old. I was always on the group site looking for responses to
how potential suitors handled the news of being told, and when was a
good time to tell a potential partner. I have told a few people,
most react well, it's true that how you tell matters to how they
react. People do trust and respect you for being honest and wanting
to protect them. I realized that I have a lot to offer and that
patience pays off. I didn't feel desperate to be in a relationship,
I only dated people I genuinely liked and was attracted to. I only
told those that I felt like I wanted to be serious with, which
wasn't many, but I'm kind of picky. I think it's important to date
as if you didn't have anything to worry about, tell when you feel
like it's someone you can trust, care about and someone you would
genuinely want to be with. I realized it's best not to wait too
long, so that it's not painful if it's something they can't handle.
I am beautiful, intelligent, funny, kind and fun. I was not willing
to settle for someone just because they might accept me with HSV2.
Having herpes really is not a big deal. Basically, I'm now in a
fabulous relationship with the best man I have ever met, he's
handsome, smart, sexy, sweet, talented, honest and fun! I'm now on
daily Valtrex 500MG, it's almost like I don't even have the virus.
Obviously, I watch out for prodromes and symptoms to keep him safer.
I know that it is important to give people time to digest the
information. After I told my guy, it seemed like he was only
interested in being friends, we still would snowboard together, but
there was a distance between us. Two weeks later, he came around, it
may have been me feeling awkward and unintentionally pushing him
away. It's perfect now. Having HSV2 isn't a big deal, it truly is
very common and there is no reason to pity yourself or settle. I'm
happy and feel great. Your site was a big help to me when I doubted
myself, thank you. Feel free to post this email, it may help
someone. - S
It's been
almost a year since I found out about my diagnosis and these people in this
group have been there for me through everything!! If it weren't for this group
and their support I would probably still be hating the world and everyone in it.
These guys are so awesome I hope you have the same experience that I have had.
Good Luck to you!! - S
Picking Up
the Pieces is a great site with lots of support and information about herpes and hpv. I have since learned
to accept the disease and live with it. I am always hoping that a cure will be
found but have figured out how to take things one day at a time and to live life
to the fullest.
Picking Up
the Pieces is a dedicated group and a blessing for those that truly need
the extra help. - R
Look no further! I can honestly
tell you this about Picking Up
the Pieces. I may not have met anyone here personally, but
in the 5 weeks I've been a part of this group, I've not only gotten every
question answered, but there have been people here for me 24/7. Some of the
nicest people I've ever met. I think that you will find what your looking for
right here. ;-) Keep the faith, and don't hesitate to ask questions, chime in,
or just read. That's what this group is all about. Being there for each other.
Some of us have better days than others, and everyone takes turns picking each
other up! - Dave
Betsy and Angela et al, Just a note of thanks. Before I found
Yoshi & PUP I
had felt very educated about the biology of this virus (swear I could have a
Ph.D. with 1/2 the research I had done) and was looking for more emotional and
"tactical" advice when I arrived. Some I found, some I had (have) to learn. I
appreciate all that time and effort everyone puts in for the
Herpes Community. This
weekend, I spent more time with the *** (we had a camp-in given the blizzard). He had found Yoshi too
and spent a lot of time on the site. Because he
had done his own "biological" research he was glad to see all the information he
learned was confirmed. What really blew him away were the
True Stories. He just
kept commenting on how he was really beginning to understand what I've been
through - blah blah - all very sweet. So, my thanks to all of the
contributors who keep this going and my humble suggestion to those who
are inviting non herpes
partners into their lives, have them browse through because it humanizes
herpes. Godspeed - T.
So, I got diagnosed a couple of months ago with
herpes, and your website and
PUP
have been such a life saver. I feel so thankful that I live in the age of
the internet because I can't imagine how lonely and isolated I'd feel if I
didn't have this outlet. These two
forums
seem to have brought together some of the nicest, most supportive people in
the world. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
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